Since we are approaching Halloween let’s talk about Ghosting! I’m not talking about dressing up in a white bedsheet with cut out eyes roaming around making silly and haunting noises, but I’m shedding some light on the disappearing acts that are being played in friendships and relationships.
Disappearing acts have been going on since the beginning of time but when it comes to being ghosted it creates indifference and that can be just as hurtful and damaging as rejection.
Ghosting, if you haven’t yet experienced it, is having someone that you believe cares about you, whether it be a friend, new acquaintance or someone you are maybe dating or talking to disappear from contact without any explanation . One day no phone calls or emails …not even a text leaving you with a whole array of psychological termoil. “ what have I done wrong ?”
If you’ve ever been ghosted by someone that you deeply care/ cared about you feel disrespected and disposable, and often left with questions that you fear will never be answered . You don’t know how to react because you don’t really know what has happened so you go through emotional hell, playing different scenarios in your head and questioning yourself , among feelings of rejection and being out of control . You Also start to question the validity of the relationship you had, and Why didn’t I see this coming? How could I have been such a poor judge of character? What did I do to cause this? How will I protect myself from this in the future…. maybe I can’t …. ????
Ghosting is passive aggressive, emotionally abusive and leaves scars and bruises on ones self worth regardless of the ghosters intent .
Think before you Ghost!!!!! An important thing to remember is that when you feel like you are being ghosted , it says nothing about you and everything about the person doing the ghosting. It shows that the individual doesn’t have the courage or emotional strength / tools to deal with the their own emotions or yours, and most likely they don’t understand the impact It has , or worse they simply don’t care and never really did.
They have however sent you an extremely loud message that says: I don’t have what it takes to have a mature healthy relationship / friendship with you, I dont care about your well being or happiness . Who needs any of this. Let them go peacefully #bye